Wow! It’s already been two years since I created Ihatemypublicist.com. I literally was just talking about it one day, six months later I was on my way down 85 south making my way to Atlanta.
I literally had no idea what I was getting myself into when I first started out. It was so easy in the beginning, I assumed that things would remain at a steady pace. Chaaaa no! Ha! I was so wrong. The kid has faced more hardships than a little bit. But with God, faith, family, friends and the power of the universe on my side I’ve been able to beat the odds.
Yesterday I had the opportunity to speak on Simply The Dime’s Blog Talk Radio show. It was actually my first time being on any sort of radio show. I’ve sat in and watched other shows but I’ve never done one myself up until now and it was super fun. We talked a lot about myself, how I got started with the site, the journey leading up to now and more. I dropped a few gems along the way as well.
Everyone that tuned in really enjoyed the show so I thought it would be a great idea to share it with those of you who missed it. Well I won’t beat your eyes up, ha. Listen to the full interview below.
Excuse the foul language in the beginning, seriously don’t know what that was about. It makes for a good laugh though. Ha!
*I come on around the 5:23 mark*
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So you say you hate Monday’s huh? Is it that you hate Monday’s or do you just simply hate what you do? At one point I was in that same boat. I hated Mondays, I hated being on someone else’s watch, I hated my 3 hour roundtrip commute, I hated being underpaid, I hated being the underdog, I hated feeling unappreciated, always feeling like I had to prove myself to others, I was flat out miserable. That all changed when I figured out that this was what I wanted to do and that this was going to be the thing that made me happy. After reading this I hope you all are inspired enough to chase after your happy, if you haven’t already.
What’s up guys! It’s been a while since I’ve opened up to you all. In real life I don’t talk about my problems much. I rarely open up to my closest friends and family members. I keep everything bottled in just like most writers I know. Writing is my way of expressing my feelings and I use it to get things off my chest. So don’t mind me when I’m venting my intentions are never bad. Last time we spoke I was telling you all about how I had been recently fired from my job but chileee a lot has changed since then. Let’s just say it hasn’t been like the fairytale that plays over and over in my head. Hehe!
My original plan was to save money and move to Atlanta by the end of August 2013 and become the next Oprah Winfrey just like that. NOT! Once I was let go from my job I had to strategize and come up with a plan b fast so that’s exactly what I did. Nothing was stopping me from getting to the A. Ha! So in September of 2013 I packed up my little car and drove to Atlanta with a full tank of gas and $175 in my pocket. After filling up my tank twice from Jersey to Atlanta I only had about $80-$90 dollar left once I arrived. I was the happiest person in the world though. Chile you couldn’t tell me nothing, I was in the A and was more excited than ever for new opportunities. Despite the fact that I was staying on a friends couch with no internet in the house, I was out every single night networking and in the mornings I would drive to the nearest Starbucks to get my stories out.
I am no longer under those living circumstances but I still struggle everyday. No matter what I’m going through I find myself at somebody’s networking event or doing something productive whether it be a meeting or getting work done from home. At times I feel invincible, like no one can stop me or get in the way of what I’m doing. That’s the type of energy that you have to put into your universe in order to attract the things that you would like to see happen in your life.
As of right now I am blogging full-time and waitressing. So let me tell you guys about how I got a job as a waitress. I’ve never waitressed before in my life and if you are familiar with the food business then you’d know that often times you can’t get a job waitressing without experience. Well law of attraction says otherwise. I had been online all day on the prowl and finally I came across a post on Instagram that mentioned that a particular lounge was looking to hire waitresses and bartenders. So I got dressed and went in for an interview. Let’s just say I walked in hopeful and walked out with a job. Why a waitress? Because it offers me the flexible hours needed as a full time blogger. I could go and get a corporate job tomorrow if I wanted to but that would take the focus away from what I am truly passionate about and I don’t need or want that.
I don’t share these stories because I’m seeking attention. I share them because I know there’s a female out there watching me who needs the motivation. I want her to know that it isn’t going to be easy but it’s going to be worth it as long as you are willing to put in long hours and not like 40 hours more like 24 hours a day 7 days a week, because that is what it is going to take.
So are you ready to chase your happy yet?
If not, its okay you will be soon enough because I will be contributing a motivational post like this every Monday morning to get you pumped and ready to go for the week. When I first started the site I would post Motivational Monday posts every Monday but I felt like what I was posting everyone had already seen somewhere else. So instead of relying on other sources I’ve decided to create my own lane. If you or anyone else you know would like to share a story, poem, video etc that could be uplift the people please email email@example.com by Sunday morning to be featured.
Seems like everyone has an opinion on blogs and bloggers these days. By all means they have the right to speak their minds just like we as bloggers have the right to speak ours. I’ve sat back and watched K. Michelle, Yandy Smith, Daisy (from the new reality show Blood, Sweat and Heels) and now Ciara as well as Rico Love talk about how bad some of these bloggers and blog sites are as well as how bad blogging can be. As previously stated, they have that right, but what about the blogs and bloggers that aren’t negative such as the ones on Ihatemypublicist.com.
As a blogger, I don’t see the fun in talking down on anyone or trying to defame one’s character. I realize that these celebrities are human just like we are and I don’t want anyone saying mean things about me so I don’t do it to others. Sure I could post rumors and lies on the site to get my traffic booming but that wouldn’t reflect my personality. Social media has given us first dibs into the lives of celebrities, so shouldn’t it be okay for us to take what some of you have already put on the internet and give it a little more detail, opinion and creativity? Because we are still an upcoming celebrity entertainment site my goal is to show other bloggers that you don’t have to be negative to become a successful blogger. The site has been growing without all of the he say, she say gossip that’s floating around on the web. There are other ways to give your readers a great story without being negative you just have to find out what works best for you.
Every story that’s posted on the site isn’t 100% factual but that’s why we use words such as “allegedly”, “reports state” and so on and so forth. Our site is juicy and opinionated but far from negative. We take pride on being one of the most accredited sites in the blogosphere.
I just want to formally apologize to any entertainer that has taken a social media beating from a blogger but please don’t overlook us nice bloggers out here. I don’t use my platform to spread lies, I use it to inspire and to be the middle man between our favorite celebrities and the fans.
This post stemmed from Ciara’s thoughts on social media and bloggers that she posted to her personal website yesterday. See what she had to say below.
I used to sometimes like visiting some of the blog sites to see what new things are happening in the world! Things like cool photos, current events, etc. But nowadays it seems like there’s a competition with sites on “Who Can Tear Someone Down the Most.” The stories are going from cool and creative to pure drama. Even the comment sections are beginning to get out of control and people are using the platforms to exercise a false sense of power.
People sure do have a lot of courage when they are anonymous. It’s like a “Who Can Say the Nastiest Comment Game.” I click onto some of the comments from something as fun as an Instagram post that you’re sharing with your fans, and a person finds a way to turn a positive post into a negative. I think to myself, “I could pick this person apart so bad but what for? Why act ugly like them?” It honestly takes the fun out of it when people seem so miserable.
Or at least that’s how I view someone wasting their energy to tear someone down, just plain miserable. They could be using that to do something much more productive. If only they could channel their energy towards positivity, it could make a difference in their own life as well as influence others. It’s kind of scary for the kids coming up, because even if a parent doesn’t allow their kids to have blog site access at home, they may still have access at school or other places. It’s now almost impossible to protect your kids from the vile things people say on blog sites today, and it’s even worse when kids hear hurtful things about themselves, their parents or other family members. In some cases kids have even resorted to suicide due to “cyber-bullying.”
My questions to people creating slander about people are: What stops you from thinking twice about trying to defame someone? What are you trying to gain?
Words are powerful. You could say the wrong thing about someone, famous or not, on the wrong day and that could cost them their life because they’re at a weak point. Believe it it or not, you could also be encouraging them to give up on their life or whatever the situation is, when they shouldn’t. Or what about a story that causes unnecessary drama stemming from completely false information? It’s just flat out wrong and sad. I say to myself, I thank God for making me strong, because I’ve always been able to use the negativity as motivation, and it makes me stronger.
But I don’t just think about myself in this, I think about others that I see getting thrashed and think it’s just so wrong. It’s very sad that people just want to tear people down so bad just to see them unhappy. It’s unbelievable how far people are willing to go to get people to come to their site. I say this to say….
Dear Blogger, It’s never worth it in the end when you sell your soul for a quick dollar, by creating bad stories about people. At some point, it will all reverse on you and you’ll end up regretting all the trash you wrote or said about people. The universal friend “Karma” has demonstrated this over and over again. I strongly encourage you to project more positivity into the universe. If Social Media is a world that’s growing more massive by the day, why not use it to shed light?? Otherwise, you are merely contaminating our universe. What about your family and kids?? Do you think about them?? You’re definitely creating a harmful and volatile environment where they must learn to live. It’s almost like you are cursing future generations with your bad energy. Not to mention…Your “Personal Karma”??… Forget about it! You better start doing some serious praying and rebuking, cause only The Lord knows!…:)
I sure do miss the good ol days when the focus was about the pure creativity of being an artist. Back then there was still some mystery. Social Media Is Beginning To Take Away The Specialness of What That Was, and Is.
Now, Off Blogs. Peaceful Mind. Living In My Happiness. Creativity Only.
Meanwhile, Rico Love touched basis on the evil side of social media. He basically stated that entertainers can no longer live a discrete life because of the fear of ending up on a blog. Check it out at the 18:30 mark.
It has been 6 months since the launch of IHatemypublicist.com and I have yet to sit down and write up a personal story of myself. I’m sure you guys want to know more abut the woman behind the brand. Welp here goes nothing!
Recently, I shared a short story about how I just recently got fired from my 9 to 5 job on instagram, but I wanted to go more in depth with you guys about the story because so many people were inspired by the post.
It was all good just a week ago. LOL.
Okay so five months after college I landed a media sales job and when I first started out I loved it, I really did. It was everything that I wanted pretty much. I had an office job, salary based pay and I was constantly being challenged with the day to day activities. I love being challenged but only in positive ways but soon those challenges became more of headache than anything else. I felt like I was constantly trying to prove myself to certain people and whatever I did wasn’t good enough. Folks went out of their way to run in the manager’s office to tell on me. Not to mention my immediate supervisor nagged and complained about everything and the way she went about certain things were extremely unprofessional. It got to the point where I literally told her not to talk to me outside of any work that she needs for me to do.
Once I started the blog things got worse. Individuals in the office became jealous of me expanding my horizons. Which is something that I will never understand because clearly we all have the same opportunities out here. So if you want something go get it ! Anywho, I distanced myself from everyone and it was simply because I was no longer interested in the he say, she say gossip that was circulating the office. Instead I became more business minded and made IHatemypublicist.com my number one priority. But instead of folks being happy for me and offering to help they sat back and talked about me over salads and light croutons. No worries though I kept my focus and energy on the website and no lie, seeing all of the positive comments from my readers made those days in the office a lot easier and helped lower my stress levels.
Last week, I walked in late and was asked to leave IMMEDIATELY after having been put on three 30-day probations in a row. Yes! I was put on a 90 day probation for absolutely nothing. One day I asked to go to Wawa around 2:30 to go grab a sub, which is normal because we make store runs all the time on the clock. But I was told that because I asked to go at 2:30 that means I was doing “other things” (a.k.a. blogging) during my lunch which was unacceptable and was one of the reasons that I was being put on probation lol. Didn’t know grabbing a sub would get me in so much trouble, damn you Wawa!
Not by any means am I going to sit here and say that I was a perfect assistant. I’ve had days where I’ve messed up and could’ve done better but it was all a valuable learning experience. I learned so much from the company and from both my supervisors and I know the skills that I’ve acquired will be beneficial to my future. I could have channeled their negative energy into negative actions but I chose to use it as motivation. The motivation for me is proving that I can do something when others don’t believe that I am capable. And, my supervisor being a total bit-h towards me didn’t hurt me. It helped me. That too was motivation for me to go hard, so I thank her for that. She couldn’t have done a better job. Ha!
I say all of that to say, GO HARD! No matter the circumstance and no matter what may be going on around you find what it is that you are passionate about and start working. When you are passionate about it, you don’t have to get paid for it because you love what you are doing and know that the money will come once you put in the work. If you are currently unemployed and are looking for work but can’t seem to land anything, DON’T GIVE UP! Believe that you are going to get a job, wake up everyday and grind and I guarantee something will happen for you!
I hope that you can use my story as motivation/inspiration. Have a great day everyone!